HOT LOVE RELATIONSHIP TOPIC: HOW FREE ARE YOU IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP ?

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People have free will- personal ability to judge and decide what they want, what they should do and when they should. As in many cases, some of us fail to use this will, when it comes to love relationship. 

Common outcome of people not using their will in love relationship is frequently seen on reasons for breaking up because in such cases, the factors that make people break up existed before they started relationship. Interesting enough, these factors were known to the partners, but those partners didn’t want to admit them.

Lack of free will in love relationship doesn’t only cause break ups, but also bring constant fights in many relationship. This brings a concern on why you should exercise your free will.

The question is why some people don’t exercise their Will in love relationship?

Here is an account of the factors I think causes people not to exercise their will:

Assumption

It is common to assume that a partner wants or doesn’t want something in relationship. Some people went in relationship just because they assumed that from the actions of their partners things will be the way they think will be, for example what roles each partner will play in the relationship? Normally people would leave this discussion and choose to assumptions that things will be the way other people have been doing or not.

Fear

Fear of what friends or family will say about your relationship affairs may kill your free will on what is best for you.

Sometimes you may fear what your partner will say or do  if you exercise your true will.

Lack of information

Sometimes, some people would engage in relationship with people that they wouldn’t engage themselves with if they had enough and right information about them. In other cases, we are not sure or do not have information about our social changes that may turn things differently in our relationships. So, there we go, we engage in love relationships that don’t work for us.

Understanding

I think it is very dangerous when you are in relationship with someone who has not yet discovered himself, someone who doesn’t have a clear plan and strategies of life. I don’t say it isn’t possible to have a good relationship with such a person, but in many cases such kind of people are trouble makers, their lack of understanding may cause them not to have free will when they decide to be in a relationship, hence not very long, they may bring problems in your relationship or they may just decide to break up.

However, understanding may also create a ‘problem’ to other people in a relationship. A person with clear understanding of what he or she wants may decide not to quit a relationship which he or she finds that it won’t work. This person is exercising his or her own free will. 

Taking advantage of your partner

Because you want to take advantage of your partner, you may fail to exercise your free will. Example is when you think your partner is wealthier or intelligent and thinks that him or her being with you means you have certain kind of security or assurance of easy life ahead of you.

Some people want to take advantage of beauty or fame of their partners, in the end they find themselves in difficult position to use their own free will to make important decisions concerning status and future of their relationship. This is lust!

How to Claim your will ?

1. Understand and always remember that you have free will, this is something of value to you and don't allow anybody, anything to take it from you.
2. Be true to yourself, measure not only short term but long term consequences of your actions.
3. Take responsibility for your actions, and appropriately take corrective actions to make sure you stay in control of your will. Remember " two wrongs don't make it right".