10 FACTORS FOR BUILDING A HAPPY LOVE RELATIONSHIP

Happy relationship ? We have to do our homework ! Photo by www.iamjt.com

Why we have this post here at Johnie Blog ? It is because love relationship can influence your success or failure in achieving your personal freedom.

We have so far discussed the Meaning of love and How to know if you are in love or not ( in HOW TO KNOW YOU ARE IN LOVE) . We then discussed how to stay in control when you are in love (in our post WHY PEOPLE BREAK UP IN LOVE RELATIONSHIP)

In this post, I am taking you through 10 important factors for a happy relationship. The factors discussed below are not in any particular order, the aim is only to show what two people need to build happy relationship / desired to build a happy marriage. 

My view is that ALL THESE factors are important, you can’t choose few.

Let us discuss these factors now:

Dreams:   

It is important to understand each other’s dreams because this dreams derive what plans someone has for life. It also shows the things that really matter to your partner. For strengthening your love you should know your partner’s dream and find ways to support them. It may not necessary mean you should like what your partner’s dream is but your support means a lot, plus your dream and that of your partner determine what your present and your future. Just think of your dreams affecting what kind of job you want to take, where you want to live, and how you spend your incomes. 

If you have no definite dreams and you don’t discuss? – That is the worst thing for a sustainable love relationship.

Spiritual Matters: 

By spiritual matters I refer to things more than just what type of religion or division of religion you have. Here I talk about consensus on what is good and what is bad, how you practise your spiritual affairs – for instance how often you go to church or mosque, what other spiritual associations you want to follow, what spiritual ceremonies you want to observe, how engaged in general sense you are to religious associations? In other cases, you may need to be clear about what spiritual direction your children will follow. 

I know people who didn’t consider this matter in the beginning of their relationship, it was also difficult to resolve this hence their relationship ended. I was one of those people. It happened to me when I was at University, breakup took place when I was a second year student, the relationship lasted for two years only.

Chemistry:  Simply put it this way, chemistry is how attracted you are to your partner and how engaged your emotions are towards that special partner of yours. Sometimes emotions are result of long time contact, sometimes they just happen on your first meeting with your partner. 

Either way, chemistry plays important role in your happiness and how you accept the one you love. You must learn what attracts your partner to you, and make sure you keep on building those factors that stimulate chemistry. 

Clothing, body shape, face, smartness, voice, and general body appearance when communicating may be examples of things that influence chemistry.

Love: 

We have already covered much about love in our previous post, so I am not going to repeat. However, it worth mentioning that love is different from chemistry/attractiveness. You can admire someone, be attracted to someone but still you don’t really love that person. 

When you show love to your partner, you attract and give that partner reasons to continue being with you. But don’t forget the other 9 factors discussed here are also important.

We will continue with the remaining 6 in the next post