CONTINUES... 10 FACTORS FOR BUILDING A HAPPY LOVE RELATIONSHIP

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We continue with our topic 10 Factors For Building a Happy Love Relationship; 

Children preferences: 

This has to be discussed and consensus reached, for instance one partner may think it is too early to have a child, or prefer a certain number of children only. Other consideration may be; if a partner already has a child from another person, how will this affect your relationship is an important issue to consider.

Networking preferences: 

How do you prefer your networking ? do you think it is fine that your partner use facebook, twitter and other means to communicate with 'friends' of different gender?. What level of transparency you and your partner prefer. Though it may not happen that you and your partner discuss such type of questions, it is important that you are aware of your partner’s networking preferences.

Interests/Hobbies: 

Consider a situation where your partner is at home watching movie during most of time of evening while you prefer to be with her/him out for some beer. Interest preferences may have negative impact not only in making you feel ignored when your partner pursue his or her interest, but it also has impact on financial decisions you have to take. In some cases, it is just boring to have your partner staring at you while you enjoy a certain activity of your hobby while he/she seems to dislike.

Long term goals and strategies: 

There is more than sex and emotions that you share when you are in relationship. It is better to understand each other’s personal goals, and have common goals as partners. As the saying goes, if you don’t have a plan, you plan to fail. 

Some people found themselves apart just because they couldn’t share their long term goals. Here you find one partner seeing himself or herself as of another level or class in the society different from his or her partner. 

Take a good example of two lovers who started their relationship whey they were secondary school students.One love fails exams, the other one continues to the level that he or she graduates from university, has a masters degree for instance, do you think the other partner is of the same level? Other examples include goals on business, or geographical location that people plan to live in the future, and their strategies to reach their goals.

Finance matters: From how individual partner behaves towards money management, to how you identify and use opportunities to make more money. It is good for a relationship not to have its foundation on how one partner relies on another one financially. 

Both partners should find themselves interdependent no matter who is the bread earner.  

Interests, networking preferences and long term goals can have impact on how partners prefer to handle their financial affairs. 

Transparency and care for each other may help the partners to resolve their financial affairs perspectives.

Effective Communication: 

You need to be aware and know how to handle the factors that may cause poor communication in your relationship. The way you interpret situations and words sometimes may be different from what you partner does. I have witnessed two lovers having a conflict whose result is a joke from from one of them, whereby the one didn't interpret it as a joke.

You need to take care of what comes out of your mouth because you may harm your relationship. Learn for instance mood and environment in which your partner is before you open up your mouth.

Avoid to assume things like assuming your partner meant something while he or she didn’t say that, or assume your partner understands your silence while he or she may not in position to do that.

You need to stay positive, and don’t jump into conclusion easily. If there is something wrong, give it a chance to learn more before you make a decision that you are going to regret later.

Remain obedient and humble to your partner as it said unto others what you would want them do for you. A good example, switching off your phone for a whole day without informing your partner that you would that, doesn’t do go for you. The same as not attending an important event for your partner without a prior notice. 

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We have come to the end of our 10 factors for building happy relationship. It is my hope that you have seen how complicated love affairs are, and how they can have impact on your personal freedom. It is up to you now, to manage it, you must remain in control, and move forward towards true personal freedom.

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We all need some love, but we need to be able to handle risks and challenges that come with love.